Do you remember your worst date? Does the memory of it make you cringe? Mine does. My worst date was with a guy I met on OkCupid. He lived 45 minutes away in the outskirts of town so when we decided to finally meet in person, we picked a Burger King that was halfway between …
Tag: Abuse
“So, I hired a caregiver — now what?”
When I moved away from home to go to college, I had to make a rapid adjustment from being at home with my parents to living independently with the help of hired caregivers. At times, I did not handle it well. I remember wishing that I had some kind of instruction manual to help me …
On Abuse and Not Deserving It
Imagine waking up to find yourself strapped down in bed, completely unable to move. You'll probably be unstrapped soon, but until then, do you go back to sleep? Can you go back to sleep? Should you even try? No, I'm not talking about Gerald’s Game (although the movie that just came out on Netflix is …
The Right of Body Autonomy
Sometimes, when you have a disability, other people feel that they have a right to control or affect your body in ways that are unnecessary, unhelpful, and at times even painful, emotionally and physically. Strangers pat us on the head in public, acquaintances we don’t know too well hug us, and sometimes people provide physical …